We all learn something important every now and then. One of the “big” mistakes that I made in my life was to describe a woman as “very nice” when she asked me what I think of her. Just nice? Wrong answer… I was in BIG trouble! While I meant it in a very kind way, she felt like she was downgraded. Well, we actually dated for about two years and during that time she would mention it every now and then, not in a very angry way, but still, reminding me just how much it had bothered her.
Nice is just the wrong way to describe a woman! If I describe a girl as very nice, it actually means something like “alright”, not very exciting etc. Nice is almost an insult. A woman needs to be more then “nice”. Incredible, Fantastic, Amazing, Fabulous! And not just that, at least something in addition, like absolutely, totally, or completly.
I’ve learned that lesson now. So when I recently was asked by a woman what I think of her, I just smiled, took an extra second and said “Absolutely gorgeous…” And thank God, gorgeous is still a word that means something to a woman! No complaints, just a very big smile on her face! And what did she said when I asked her what she thinks of me… (You are going to like this)
“Very nice”
So – do I feel insulted? Am I’m “just” a very nice guy? Hell no! It doesn’t really matter to me what word was used to describe me, it is much more important how something is said. And in my case, “very nice” meant just as much as “Absolutly fantastic”.